The Zoo

YAY YAY YAY YAY!!!
I was driving past the Zoo today on my way home from the drs, and i got all giddy.

I cannot wait to take Kathleen for our first Zoo trip of the year :-)

The first Monday after school lets out, we will be off for a day with the Animals!!

I know its still a couple months away, but I cant help but get excited :-)

Suspension

I get so sick of doing the foot work for Cuyahoga County - but what ever U have to do to make @JP_Worley pay the child support to his daughter, I will do.

Got a call from Child Support yesterday, they are sending out a suspension on his drivers license  Its about damn time. They sent out a letter before, and he started working like right away. The worker said if she has to, she will send him one every time he stops working.

Something needs to click in this mans head. I didn't have this baby alone, and its not my husbands job to pay for her. I thank God every day that I have such an amazing husband who is raising her as his own. Then there is JP, the loser who has no idea what he is missing out on.

Or, as Kathleen says, she has one Daddy (Andrew), and one Jackass (JP). Hell, who am I to correct her? Its not like she is stating something that isn't fact.

He got pulled over in November and arrested on a Warrant for Non-Payment of child support, and posted bail. But, he never showed up to court, so now we have to go back in March and wait around to see if he shows this time. Hope he isn't stupid enough to drive himself!!

I am sure it will just be another day wasted sitting in the court room. All just to issue another warrant for his arrest. At least this time it will be a pick-up warrant, and not a bench warrant. Those are the best! Because they go to his house and will pick him up if he doesn't show. Thankfully I was able to provide them with two other possible residence addresses - one for Painsville, Ohio, and one for Mentor, Ohio. Now they have three to look for him at.

When will he learn, you don't mess with a pissed off Momma??

Sometimes I sit back and look at Kat and wonder how I got so blessed to have such a beautiful, amazing little girl.
She really did change my life 100%.

I was listening to a song the other day, and the lyrics said, "Strange how a horrible situation can give us the best blessings". Thats truly how I feel <3

I don't care how many bad days she has, she will always be my amazing little wonder.

It breaks my heart when I think about how I almost lost her, but I was blessed by God to keep her here with me. I will never forget the week we spent in Rainbow. I was so very, very scared. But, she pulled through, and here she is, 10 years old, and healthy as an ox!! And with the energy of 10 kids! lol

Accusation: Defamation of character

Seriously?
So, since JP Worley has refused to attend any jobs, or make any attempt at being a part of his daughters life, I decided - if he cant be a part of her life physically, then he is going to pay financially.
The problem is, JP doesn't like to be told he is wrong. Why? Because Mommy & Daddy always cover his ass, and he is pretty good at finding Girlfriends who will do the same thing. Trust me, I know from personal experience!

So, because he was skipping out on court dates, jobs, and everything else, I decided to utilize Social Media to track him down and try to get some results. So, I use Twitter, because that is the only way to get a hold of him.

His crack pot idea - "My layer said you better stop tweeting about me or I can get you for Defamation of Character. Are you freaking serious? If your lawyer even thinks he has a case, he must not be a real lawyer. IF he was a real lawyer - he would know that Defamation of Character is when you FALSELY accuse someone of doing something to make them look bad or ruin their reputation.

The definition is as follows -

Any intentional false communication, either written or spoken, that harms a person's reputation; decreases the respect, regard, or confidence in which a person is held; or induces disparaging, hostile, or disagreeable opinions or feelings against a person.

REALITY CHECK
YOU REALLY HAVE NOT PAID CHILD SUPPORT
YOU REALLY HAVE SKIPPED OUT ON JOBS WITHOUT EVEN SHOWING UP ONCE
YOU REALLY HAVE SKIPPER OUT ON CHILD SUPPORT COURT HEARINGS
YOU REALLY DO NOT WANT TO BE A PART OF YOUR DAUGHTERS LIFE
YOU REALLY DID GO IN FRONT OF A JUDGE WHO LAUGHED AT YOU AND CALLED YOU A HORRIBLE FATHER
YOU REALLY ARE.... A LOOSER

I don't know what exactly you think is going to happen, but let me explain how this goes down.

Eventually, you WILL have to get a job, and the state can take UP TO HALF of your wages. Eventually you will NOT be able to live off Mommy & Daddy anymore. Sooner or later, this WILL catch up with you.

Did you know if you try to get retirement, or a pension that Child support will still take money from you even if Kathleen is 40 years old?

Did you know that the longer you wait, the more you have to pay?

Did you know that?

the child support doesn't stop when she is 18 - as a matter of fact, while she is in collage, you can still be ordered to pay child support. And trust me, she wont be getting thrown out like you did.

You may not have been taught the reality of responsibility, but your daughter will be your lesson. You may not be a part of her life, but she will always, and forever, very much, be a part of yours.

Take a tip- pay the child support, get it over with. And open your damn eyes.
You have no idea how much you are missing out on with this amazing, beautiful, little girl.

I am so proud to call her my daughter, and I am so ashamed to call you her sperm donor.

- A PISSED OFF MOMMY!!!

Proud Momma!!!

Today was open house, as stated in my last blog.

Kat's teacher is great! She has kids Kat's age, so she gets it - she really does get it.

I got Kat's progress report and she is doing "satisfactory" in all subjects, which I am sure is good but I know she can do better. It just makes me sad sometimes because she is so much on the attention that she doesn't pay enough attention to the work and the lessons.

I am hoping this year we can really get her buckled down.

She did a couple writings - a letter to us, and a poem that was placed on the wall. I cannot wait until she brings this poem home so I can post it. Its an amazing piece of work. She is so creative, and so emotional. She really puts herself into words. She may not be able to spell all those words, but she does an amazing job of expressing herself.

I love this little girl so much, and I am so, so, so, SO very proud of her!!

I cannot wait to see her blossom into an amazing young woman!

Open House Time!!

Today is bitter sweet for me.

Today is Kat's open house -
Sweet because I get to go meet her teacher, and see her classroom. I even got to bake up bunches and bunches of cookies and cupcakes for the bake sale. I will get to meet some of her new friends, and see some of the old ones. I will get to talk to the principal and see how Kat is doing thus far (which, no question about it - she is always doing great).

Bitter because, I wish I could do these things with Alex and Keaton. I miss them both so much. Sometimes I feel lost when I do these things with/for Kat. I want so bad to be able to bake for Alex and Keaton's bake sales - but then I realize, I don't even know if their schools have bake sales.

Anyways, more great news - Kat passed her OAA's last year with flying colors, and she got put in a drawing for a prize for doing so well. She won a CD boom box for next to her bed! She has been wanting one so bad, and I'm glad she was able to win one, because we didn't have the extra money to get one for her.

I look at her every day and think of how proud I am of her. I cannot wait for her to grow up (like 30) and have a child of her own so she and her spouse can experience this kind of love for their child. Till then, she will never know how much she means to me, but I sure will try every day to show her!!

Worley Visit - September 20th, 2012

Worley Visit - September 20th, 2012

I told Kat she needed to go visit with her Grandparents. I told her about her Grandfather being sick with Cancer, and told her she needed to spend as much time with him as possible.

They picked her up at 9am, and she was supposed to come home at 10pm. But, that visit cut short.

Kathleen called me about 130pm and said she wanted to come home, but they wouldnt bring her. I told her I was sorry, I would call Nana and ask her to call Grandma. I called my Mom, but she was unwilling to help. So, I called Kathleen back.

Her Grandmother picked up, and when I asked to speak to Kat, she simple responded "We will be bringing Kathleen home between 2 - 2:15pm." and she hung up on me.

I sat outside with Andrew and waited for her to get home. When Kathleen got home, she ran right into Andrews arms, and didnt look back. Sue and Paul drove off without even saying good bye.

what makes me mad is what Kathleen told me about the visit.

She said while they were there, "they" (im assuming Sue Ann and Paul, and possibly JP) were looking for court papers and talking about them. Kat said she kept smiling at Grandma, but she would not smile back, that she looked upset.

then, when they were leaving to bring her home, Sue Ann told JP "Well, you better give her a big hug and Kiss, she is going home."

Then on the ride home, Sue Ann started asking Kathleen is she knew right from wrong, and the truth from a lie. (May i insert here that Sue Ann has continuously tried to say that I manipulate Kat and keep her from their family.)

I felt this was completely inappropriate. when Kathleen said she didn't want to talk about it, Sue Ann told her that she wanted to, because this was the last time they would talk to, or see each other. I thought this was wrong - very wrong. I don't think its right for someone to be so selfish that they would abandon a child because they feel like they have lost an unneeded battle.