Proud Momma!!!

Today was open house, as stated in my last blog.

Kat's teacher is great! She has kids Kat's age, so she gets it - she really does get it.

I got Kat's progress report and she is doing "satisfactory" in all subjects, which I am sure is good but I know she can do better. It just makes me sad sometimes because she is so much on the attention that she doesn't pay enough attention to the work and the lessons.

I am hoping this year we can really get her buckled down.

She did a couple writings - a letter to us, and a poem that was placed on the wall. I cannot wait until she brings this poem home so I can post it. Its an amazing piece of work. She is so creative, and so emotional. She really puts herself into words. She may not be able to spell all those words, but she does an amazing job of expressing herself.

I love this little girl so much, and I am so, so, so, SO very proud of her!!

I cannot wait to see her blossom into an amazing young woman!

Open House Time!!

Today is bitter sweet for me.

Today is Kat's open house -
Sweet because I get to go meet her teacher, and see her classroom. I even got to bake up bunches and bunches of cookies and cupcakes for the bake sale. I will get to meet some of her new friends, and see some of the old ones. I will get to talk to the principal and see how Kat is doing thus far (which, no question about it - she is always doing great).

Bitter because, I wish I could do these things with Alex and Keaton. I miss them both so much. Sometimes I feel lost when I do these things with/for Kat. I want so bad to be able to bake for Alex and Keaton's bake sales - but then I realize, I don't even know if their schools have bake sales.

Anyways, more great news - Kat passed her OAA's last year with flying colors, and she got put in a drawing for a prize for doing so well. She won a CD boom box for next to her bed! She has been wanting one so bad, and I'm glad she was able to win one, because we didn't have the extra money to get one for her.

I look at her every day and think of how proud I am of her. I cannot wait for her to grow up (like 30) and have a child of her own so she and her spouse can experience this kind of love for their child. Till then, she will never know how much she means to me, but I sure will try every day to show her!!

Worley Visit - September 20th, 2012

Worley Visit - September 20th, 2012

I told Kat she needed to go visit with her Grandparents. I told her about her Grandfather being sick with Cancer, and told her she needed to spend as much time with him as possible.

They picked her up at 9am, and she was supposed to come home at 10pm. But, that visit cut short.

Kathleen called me about 130pm and said she wanted to come home, but they wouldnt bring her. I told her I was sorry, I would call Nana and ask her to call Grandma. I called my Mom, but she was unwilling to help. So, I called Kathleen back.

Her Grandmother picked up, and when I asked to speak to Kat, she simple responded "We will be bringing Kathleen home between 2 - 2:15pm." and she hung up on me.

I sat outside with Andrew and waited for her to get home. When Kathleen got home, she ran right into Andrews arms, and didnt look back. Sue and Paul drove off without even saying good bye.

what makes me mad is what Kathleen told me about the visit.

She said while they were there, "they" (im assuming Sue Ann and Paul, and possibly JP) were looking for court papers and talking about them. Kat said she kept smiling at Grandma, but she would not smile back, that she looked upset.

then, when they were leaving to bring her home, Sue Ann told JP "Well, you better give her a big hug and Kiss, she is going home."

Then on the ride home, Sue Ann started asking Kathleen is she knew right from wrong, and the truth from a lie. (May i insert here that Sue Ann has continuously tried to say that I manipulate Kat and keep her from their family.)

I felt this was completely inappropriate. when Kathleen said she didn't want to talk about it, Sue Ann told her that she wanted to, because this was the last time they would talk to, or see each other. I thought this was wrong - very wrong. I don't think its right for someone to be so selfish that they would abandon a child because they feel like they have lost an unneeded battle.

Kat's Background

Well, when I got pregnant with Kat, I was 18, and on the pill. Obviously that didn't work very well. The pill is 99% effective, but as the Priest on Desperate Housewives once said, "God is in that 1%".

Kathleen's Biological father was never very keen on the thought of me having her - nor was he willing to be a active parent in her life. It took very many years, and tons of e-mails and phone calls until I got any type of response from his end. And by his end, I mean his Girlfriend.

After almost 2 years of visits with his Girlfriend (and him in the same house SOMETIMES), his parents decided they wanted to be an active part of her life. That began in June of 2009. In July of 2009, they decided to surprise me with a paid trip to Disney Land for Kathleen and them for her Grandmothers Birthday. Being that they had only known each other for a month or so, I found it a little odd that they made this arrangement without consulting me.

They asked me not to tell Kathleen - they thought it would be a nice surprise for her. I on the other hand, knowing my daughter much better - knew that this would not be a good idea. So, I brought it up to Kathleen, and she asked if I were going. No, I wasn't. She said she did not want to go. I left it at that. I was not going to try and talk my child into a two week vacation with the Grandparents she had just met.

On her one and only over night with her Grandparents, she came home to inform me that at bed time, she was not allowed to call and tell me good night, and when she cried for me, she was told only babies cry for their Mommy, and she needed to go to bed. THIS, broke my heart!!! I would do anything to comfort my little cuddle bunny, and knowing these people would not allow her to call me when she needed me, I WAS FURIOUS!!!

Well, over the last 3 years, I have tried my hardest to be supportive and encouraging the visits and encourage the relationship between them. But I feel like I have been lied to, and used. All of these visits began on the basis that JP wanted a relationship with Kat, but didn't want any contact with myself. That's fine, because I didn't want anything to do with him either.

(in November 2009, I met my husband Andrew, and Kathleen calls him Daddy [her choice] and says that he is her Daddy. when asked why, she says "Because he does Daddy things")

But this year things changed - for the worst from what I can tell.

Kat's Grandparents have never visited more than 4-5 times a year, but each visits is from 9am until 10 or 11pm.
In May I got a letter stating JP had a warrant for his arrest for his back child support. I e-mailed Sue Ann right away and let her know I did not feel comfortable with Kat visiting while JP had the warrant out - I did not want him getting arrested while Kat was there to see it. She promptly e-mailed me for a visit in June, and I declined because JP had not taken care of it.

Well, in August, I got served papers from Cuyahoga County Juvenile Courts - apparently JP had filed for custody. "Jeremy Paul Worley vs. Patricia A. Savol" AWESOME!!!
Date filed - May 10, 2012. Seriously people? This was before I even emailed them about JP taking care of the warrant.

Well, call me a bad mom, but, I let Kathleen think for herself. So, if they requested a visit I would ask Kathleen if she wanted to go. If she said no, I would decline, if she said yes, I would say yes.
Here is my issue - no one in their family has EVER called to say "Hi, can I talk to Kathleen?", nor has anyone ever called to say "Hey Kat, how was school today?".

Once in a great while the Grandparents will send a post card, or a card in the mail - which I think is cool!! Kat loves getting things in the mail, and she loved getting the cute cards or post cards. But they aren't involved or show that they want to be involved outside of the couple visits a year.

Well, here is what really set me off - This year, I e-mailed Sue Ann to invite her, Paul and JP to Kats back to school BBQ. They declined and said they had plans they couldn't change. No biggy.

After that, I got an e-mail from her saying that I refused to let Kathleen attend her Birthday Party - the problem was, I never knew anything about it!!

After several e-mails, we finally agreed on a day and time Kathleen could go with them (they were going to Cedar Point, but it was the day Kat started school, so I agreed to let her go Tuesday, but she would have to be home by 8pm).

(let me insert here, that Sue Ann blocked me from her cell phone, so even if Kat did go with her, I had no way of getting a hold of them unless I blocked the number and called from Andrews phone)

Well, on Monday night, at about 9pm (after Kat was already in bed, expecting to be picked up early the next morning), I got an e-mail from Sue Ann saying it was best they didnt pick Kathleen up, under the circumstances.

*(the words that went through my mind I cannot post here because my Blog would ger reported for adult content!)*

The next morning I let Kathleen sleep in, and when she woke up, I told her about the e-mail, and she cried. "What am I going to tell my friends? I told them all I Was going to Cedar Point, they will think I lied" I felt so bad for her. I wished I had a car so I could drive her up myself.

(to be continued...)