Accusation: Defamation of character

Seriously?
So, since JP Worley has refused to attend any jobs, or make any attempt at being a part of his daughters life, I decided - if he cant be a part of her life physically, then he is going to pay financially.
The problem is, JP doesn't like to be told he is wrong. Why? Because Mommy & Daddy always cover his ass, and he is pretty good at finding Girlfriends who will do the same thing. Trust me, I know from personal experience!

So, because he was skipping out on court dates, jobs, and everything else, I decided to utilize Social Media to track him down and try to get some results. So, I use Twitter, because that is the only way to get a hold of him.

His crack pot idea - "My layer said you better stop tweeting about me or I can get you for Defamation of Character. Are you freaking serious? If your lawyer even thinks he has a case, he must not be a real lawyer. IF he was a real lawyer - he would know that Defamation of Character is when you FALSELY accuse someone of doing something to make them look bad or ruin their reputation.

The definition is as follows -

Any intentional false communication, either written or spoken, that harms a person's reputation; decreases the respect, regard, or confidence in which a person is held; or induces disparaging, hostile, or disagreeable opinions or feelings against a person.

REALITY CHECK
YOU REALLY HAVE NOT PAID CHILD SUPPORT
YOU REALLY HAVE SKIPPED OUT ON JOBS WITHOUT EVEN SHOWING UP ONCE
YOU REALLY HAVE SKIPPER OUT ON CHILD SUPPORT COURT HEARINGS
YOU REALLY DO NOT WANT TO BE A PART OF YOUR DAUGHTERS LIFE
YOU REALLY DID GO IN FRONT OF A JUDGE WHO LAUGHED AT YOU AND CALLED YOU A HORRIBLE FATHER
YOU REALLY ARE.... A LOOSER

I don't know what exactly you think is going to happen, but let me explain how this goes down.

Eventually, you WILL have to get a job, and the state can take UP TO HALF of your wages. Eventually you will NOT be able to live off Mommy & Daddy anymore. Sooner or later, this WILL catch up with you.

Did you know if you try to get retirement, or a pension that Child support will still take money from you even if Kathleen is 40 years old?

Did you know that the longer you wait, the more you have to pay?

Did you know that?

the child support doesn't stop when she is 18 - as a matter of fact, while she is in collage, you can still be ordered to pay child support. And trust me, she wont be getting thrown out like you did.

You may not have been taught the reality of responsibility, but your daughter will be your lesson. You may not be a part of her life, but she will always, and forever, very much, be a part of yours.

Take a tip- pay the child support, get it over with. And open your damn eyes.
You have no idea how much you are missing out on with this amazing, beautiful, little girl.

I am so proud to call her my daughter, and I am so ashamed to call you her sperm donor.

- A PISSED OFF MOMMY!!!

Worley Visit - September 20th, 2012

Worley Visit - September 20th, 2012

I told Kat she needed to go visit with her Grandparents. I told her about her Grandfather being sick with Cancer, and told her she needed to spend as much time with him as possible.

They picked her up at 9am, and she was supposed to come home at 10pm. But, that visit cut short.

Kathleen called me about 130pm and said she wanted to come home, but they wouldnt bring her. I told her I was sorry, I would call Nana and ask her to call Grandma. I called my Mom, but she was unwilling to help. So, I called Kathleen back.

Her Grandmother picked up, and when I asked to speak to Kat, she simple responded "We will be bringing Kathleen home between 2 - 2:15pm." and she hung up on me.

I sat outside with Andrew and waited for her to get home. When Kathleen got home, she ran right into Andrews arms, and didnt look back. Sue and Paul drove off without even saying good bye.

what makes me mad is what Kathleen told me about the visit.

She said while they were there, "they" (im assuming Sue Ann and Paul, and possibly JP) were looking for court papers and talking about them. Kat said she kept smiling at Grandma, but she would not smile back, that she looked upset.

then, when they were leaving to bring her home, Sue Ann told JP "Well, you better give her a big hug and Kiss, she is going home."

Then on the ride home, Sue Ann started asking Kathleen is she knew right from wrong, and the truth from a lie. (May i insert here that Sue Ann has continuously tried to say that I manipulate Kat and keep her from their family.)

I felt this was completely inappropriate. when Kathleen said she didn't want to talk about it, Sue Ann told her that she wanted to, because this was the last time they would talk to, or see each other. I thought this was wrong - very wrong. I don't think its right for someone to be so selfish that they would abandon a child because they feel like they have lost an unneeded battle.

Kat's Background

Well, when I got pregnant with Kat, I was 18, and on the pill. Obviously that didn't work very well. The pill is 99% effective, but as the Priest on Desperate Housewives once said, "God is in that 1%".

Kathleen's Biological father was never very keen on the thought of me having her - nor was he willing to be a active parent in her life. It took very many years, and tons of e-mails and phone calls until I got any type of response from his end. And by his end, I mean his Girlfriend.

After almost 2 years of visits with his Girlfriend (and him in the same house SOMETIMES), his parents decided they wanted to be an active part of her life. That began in June of 2009. In July of 2009, they decided to surprise me with a paid trip to Disney Land for Kathleen and them for her Grandmothers Birthday. Being that they had only known each other for a month or so, I found it a little odd that they made this arrangement without consulting me.

They asked me not to tell Kathleen - they thought it would be a nice surprise for her. I on the other hand, knowing my daughter much better - knew that this would not be a good idea. So, I brought it up to Kathleen, and she asked if I were going. No, I wasn't. She said she did not want to go. I left it at that. I was not going to try and talk my child into a two week vacation with the Grandparents she had just met.

On her one and only over night with her Grandparents, she came home to inform me that at bed time, she was not allowed to call and tell me good night, and when she cried for me, she was told only babies cry for their Mommy, and she needed to go to bed. THIS, broke my heart!!! I would do anything to comfort my little cuddle bunny, and knowing these people would not allow her to call me when she needed me, I WAS FURIOUS!!!

Well, over the last 3 years, I have tried my hardest to be supportive and encouraging the visits and encourage the relationship between them. But I feel like I have been lied to, and used. All of these visits began on the basis that JP wanted a relationship with Kat, but didn't want any contact with myself. That's fine, because I didn't want anything to do with him either.

(in November 2009, I met my husband Andrew, and Kathleen calls him Daddy [her choice] and says that he is her Daddy. when asked why, she says "Because he does Daddy things")

But this year things changed - for the worst from what I can tell.

Kat's Grandparents have never visited more than 4-5 times a year, but each visits is from 9am until 10 or 11pm.
In May I got a letter stating JP had a warrant for his arrest for his back child support. I e-mailed Sue Ann right away and let her know I did not feel comfortable with Kat visiting while JP had the warrant out - I did not want him getting arrested while Kat was there to see it. She promptly e-mailed me for a visit in June, and I declined because JP had not taken care of it.

Well, in August, I got served papers from Cuyahoga County Juvenile Courts - apparently JP had filed for custody. "Jeremy Paul Worley vs. Patricia A. Savol" AWESOME!!!
Date filed - May 10, 2012. Seriously people? This was before I even emailed them about JP taking care of the warrant.

Well, call me a bad mom, but, I let Kathleen think for herself. So, if they requested a visit I would ask Kathleen if she wanted to go. If she said no, I would decline, if she said yes, I would say yes.
Here is my issue - no one in their family has EVER called to say "Hi, can I talk to Kathleen?", nor has anyone ever called to say "Hey Kat, how was school today?".

Once in a great while the Grandparents will send a post card, or a card in the mail - which I think is cool!! Kat loves getting things in the mail, and she loved getting the cute cards or post cards. But they aren't involved or show that they want to be involved outside of the couple visits a year.

Well, here is what really set me off - This year, I e-mailed Sue Ann to invite her, Paul and JP to Kats back to school BBQ. They declined and said they had plans they couldn't change. No biggy.

After that, I got an e-mail from her saying that I refused to let Kathleen attend her Birthday Party - the problem was, I never knew anything about it!!

After several e-mails, we finally agreed on a day and time Kathleen could go with them (they were going to Cedar Point, but it was the day Kat started school, so I agreed to let her go Tuesday, but she would have to be home by 8pm).

(let me insert here, that Sue Ann blocked me from her cell phone, so even if Kat did go with her, I had no way of getting a hold of them unless I blocked the number and called from Andrews phone)

Well, on Monday night, at about 9pm (after Kat was already in bed, expecting to be picked up early the next morning), I got an e-mail from Sue Ann saying it was best they didnt pick Kathleen up, under the circumstances.

*(the words that went through my mind I cannot post here because my Blog would ger reported for adult content!)*

The next morning I let Kathleen sleep in, and when she woke up, I told her about the e-mail, and she cried. "What am I going to tell my friends? I told them all I Was going to Cedar Point, they will think I lied" I felt so bad for her. I wished I had a car so I could drive her up myself.

(to be continued...)